Fostering Hope 08.27.17.mp3

Fostering Hope
Sunday, August 27th

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Welcome to fostering hope a program that opens the door into the world look Foster care and adoption sponsored by Foster adopt connect. You'll hear stories from all facets of Foster care. When kids who've experienced the system firsthand from parents who were taking on the challenges and rewards of creating for ever Bailey's four Foster children. And from child welfare workers and policy makers who worked within the system while also working to make it better besides you're an important stories you'll learn how you can help society's most vulnerable children in big ways or small. Please welcome our host the youth program supervisor at Foster adults connect. Nathan Ross. Welcome to fostering hope. I mean your hosts Nathan Ross here's my co hosting for towns and I did that hi how are you superb all sound can. We're joined by the director of youth programs for Foster adopt connect Kelly suite 20 hi Kelly and how are you and ran great. Thanks for being here with us today. As so. Today we want to talk about education and and and its impact with our Foster adopt connect programs and so we've been able to hear different stories. From different professionals throughout the last month about the different educational opportunities. Available in our community but we haven't been able to weigh in so far. As do our own agency and how we interact with those types of programs. In how we come up with the additional programming to serve needs that are already being met. I'm far arcades so. Kelly with that being said he talked to us about them down death in the connection center. What god does and how bad good I'm led to an educational component within that program. Sure I am in the family connections Larry is. Is a facility that cares for children anywhere from birth to eighteen years old and so on. To learn come to us for approximately thirty to sixty days depending on the situations in their case. And during that time. We do assessments with them so children who are older have the DLA which is daily living assessment children who are younger we used the ASQ three. And what that is his development all that assessment and tells us. Where the children are as far as and educational needs the president started. About four years ago and the intent of the shelter was wrapping reunification was reunify families and in a very short amount of time. And as we grew we began to take an emergency placements as well. And so we have quite a mixture of ages and backgrounds as children one of the things. That we noticed was that. That unless. Almost every child came and went some sort of educational deficit. And so. Whenever that was and developmental milestone that a child wasn't hitting or when and that way it's math that was a struggle for them. Educationally and they. Just needed that extra push to get away their peers who are part. The issue is. New is being down school the school as you change Foster homes and change placements and so it's very difficult to pick up. In a new school and to you know almost constantly meaning you can are to change teachers and and pick up where you left. Not so you'd have you mentioned there's a deficit educationally. Now only for those kids to move from home to home but that I would imagine that it applies to kid to come directly from birth home is that correct. It as a yes. We work very hard to keep the kids in their school glories and so. Whatever school they come from we will transfer them. And still we think when you with the school district to provide transportation. We feel like everything in their life has changed their helmets changed humility with has changed and showed their school and their teacher. And are very important educationally and socially and so we try to keep them in that school for continuity sake than anything I think a former Iran of. I pass episode we talked about what you just ended did two prongs to that that. Wine and it's difficult to remain on track when you change schools because. Curriculum is different from schooled assault also what might have been covered earlier in the school year may be is being recovered and there's a gap in the intestines can reflect back. Later on in the year but also socially these kids need as many social supports is taking an up and we need to do as many social supports as possible so. If you don't relationships with teachers or guidance counselors in your school and you're uprooted and moved to another want to have to re tell your story. I can not only feature Mac and that kind of sets you up for you know lack of support later when you reunify. I think absolutely I know from my own personal experience coming into care. I went to the same school from the time I was three until I moved to my Foster home and I was eleventh so I had the same. He chairs the same staff that it's you know the same friends and so when I came in a Foster care we were in a shelter for six months be able to go back to school app. Everyone knew our story known because those high profile but because they also had known me. For those years they were able to wraparound that act debt additional social support. They're also able to hold me accountable even so they concede where I was before I'm dead tragedy that happened that came in and they were able to then weigh that out with. What was happening as a result of trauma and where I was pushing the limits a little bit which was helpful. I would guess correct me if I'm wrong but I would guess to best it would be especially important in high profile cases because of fewer and I have to. Go to a new school where that was all they knew review and they didn't know you as a person in the right reacted very differently and returning to a school they knew he adds. A person absolutely for a before that news. Absolutely. So even mourn those kids to come to you Kelly who come to the program from birth families to have some of these educational deficits. What have you noticed has contributed to just deficits. Comments it isn't just that they are biologically. And our own less fortunate than other kids it. Or are there and factors when the family is struggling. One of the first things ago is the focus on education. You know nobody's second and backpack when they come home to see if they have hallmark. Nobody's going to parent teacher conference to get their feedback from the teacher to see when their child that. And children. Show us what they can't tell us. And so when things are going on a calm behavior leave the child may start to act they're not as focused in school and I'm sleeping as loud. You know there injuring. Traumatic events in their life that. Make school a lot less important and so as a result. I am you know that ten CU. That that you know intensive. Come out in their home mark. There are situations where we've had educational neglect from family is whose children have come into the shelter. Because the parents maybe he had drug use and they left the child to look after the younger children. And and sinister element school altogether new and so it's. You know it's case by case but it. It is denied. I'm just a Foster child situation and it's definitely occurring prior to coming into care moved. This sounds like. It's not also there's just it's not just that would. Nature and not just now these kids. Our dom or you don't know armed you know going to be doomed for life it's yeah they've missed out on opportunities correct. Yeah these kids by and large are not certain. Suffering any kind of organic. I am moon deficit educationally. You know mentally anything like that I'm. Some of them do have mental health issues and that and do you contribute to their educational. I'm you know Vienna a child with ADHD or away. You know it has oppositional defiance. And taking direction from a teacher is not going to be something that they really. And they along the and they can't do you pray they don't hate mail when he made that. To tell much studio man and so they're gonna pay us back and some of our kids are. Having strug struggles to you can be maintained in a normal classroom and said they. You know. In the school system. Don't always attend the full school day. In their classroom and they'll end up going out and two at cola for him wire two. A behavioral interventions that they happen schools now abandoned when I'm are working with that child and so every moment that they are. Out of that classroom they're losing time on instruction. Yesterday they get their kids that are sitting in their seats are getting instruction that they are not receiving and so for that so that goes into the deaths at that their experience. And you remember when you're talking about I'm different reasons for educational to glad I worked for many American head start before I came to Foster app connect and I know. For a lot of parents and that we're working with his if you are absent for even one day you kind of called tech and NC what was happening. For a lot of them. There are other things going on in the home that they were concerned would be brought to light as the child went to school and so they very much loved the child. And did you won it you know than to be potentially taken from meant so things like. I couldn't afford you know we have electricity off and our house we can get ready I don't have enough clothes I can't afford to wash the clothes I couldn't afford set. Pay for lunch or to provide what would be seen as a sufficient mindset almost things that. They're worried you know they want their child be safe and while fanning clean that they were a bit in that moment they can provide those things and they don't want somebody. Come men have in their mind take their child so it was easier to just. Keep them. Away from school and so we are able to put in services to get them to the point they need to be so that the child could go to school they did know the services existence so you know you're at had a conversation for the kids. Yeah too much trouble. Yeah absolutely and and that's why I wanted to talk about you know some environmental factors because I now a lot of kids that come into care. They and I received a diagnosis or an assessment that says that there. Low IQ and a lower functioning and what we what I am now know from my own personal experiences and from those I've worked with over the years. Is that as they get settled in Q a permanent cease. Placement or isn't their life just settles in general. And I Q starts to go out and so if people make that initial assessment as a low functioning in the end cater their lives to that you know being the truth. How much that actually negatively impacts kids as well and so I think that. There's a lot of opportunity for people to really kind of use that as not that. And be all end Albany new engine for growth. And so I know we have to go to break here soon but when we come back Kelly. I would like to cut it into how all. For our protection within the connections program tackles or is it tempting to tackle. This educational component especially for those younger kids that we get them to a place that by the time they did. Into a stable home. They're ready to go I'm so. Continue to listen to us on fostering hope as we talk with Kelly so I flew up from nothing in the connections program I direct your youth programs. On fostering hope. Okay. Welcome back to fostering hope I'm your host Nathan Ross here's my co host Jennifer Townsend. We're joined by Kelly suite to our director of his programs at fostered talk connect today. Talking about the same connection center and the work that they are doing to help kids who were and there are racked reunification program in their emergency shelter programs. And get education we caught up. I'm so before break we have talked about some of the deficits that are perceived to be with kids who have suffered trauma and how some of those. A lot of those factors might be environmental announcement biological. And so Jennifer I know that you had on a specific. Story that you talk about well yeah Kelly and I were just talking because at and over the break because I had at placement of our own little guy can do. Been placed wind. Ice with Foster about connect previous and his time in Foster care. And had an evaluation done by an outside agency met and educational agency came end. Set SEC and you know trying to see if he needed any extra services and why not and they found he did they he had. I'm deficits across several areas. And it's several months later you know laughter. A lot of work I think by a Dennis services that he's. The Indian men and what we've done in the home but also and he's improved but I also think that it's. I think Kelly really spoke to this point quite and then I think it speaks to a more just environmental. As and as amazing and some of our you know Foster homes are and obviously is as amazing as I think our. I am program is that we're discussing today. I aid. It's not a home kids have been recently you know taken from their parents and no matter what I was maybe going on in the home previously that that's their comfort zone and so. I think sometimes we're getting an valuations for kids that are not really speaking to their true abilities or hurt. It's speaking Q and Kelly also is reminding me of this is speaking students' skills that they have in that moment it's not obviously their aptitude via birthday also can be talk a little bit about. With those screenings look why Aiken and maybe what the follow up this afterwards. Sir I'm pretty coming to Foster that can't IA spent sixteen years in early childhood education and so. You know are at with the entire goal and giving children kindergarten ready and so are pre K children are for a five year old children the spring before they started school. Would go through kindergarten screenings where the school district that they were and and the children would get the results of the parents would get the results and and we bring him back and say well you know. Johnny doesn't know this and you know the teacher and I mechanic take a look at the course Sonny knows that. It's environmentally. This day assessments given. The child. Very often you'll kind of clothes off and not be as forthcoming with information because they don't know that. The person administering the test if I know you and I worked at the end I'm comfortable with UN I'm four hour. I'll be happy to tell you anything that I know but. If I meaning you for the first time I'm not necessarily him and be able to perform to that level come and show like he said it's not their aptitude. It's what they're willing to. She's the most post men behind you know they nanny answer bad they're nice and comfortable Tim and it had an impact. Dissent before and they just Neil I know one of Mars was. Should be able to see you. Jump on 15% from an earlier if there is an IRS and a and a new mom so yeah I just seconds to put pins in her office. So that something's so didn't know how to do it. We're on and just a bit and then could do it. Share one of the things that I remember and specifically was. Yeah Irina city's children their feet their hands their face. And as you know and things like that that they were asking more toner more than throw was whom were wearing their arm pit was. More or or their elbow was and so those white things that we typically. Talked about. And where's your chests you know McGill other things and where you're Tony is mentally and talk about your chest pain and so those are just words that they are familiar with a matter of few minutes they learned them obviously but. And it says some of it it is definitely the criteria. Of what the assessment calls force so. You know. I don't think I might play in a minute you know I am signed off because that is so true I. Little two year old that we have and her home right now. I'm wind she learned all those words cheap quickly became a sense of them and so she loves to point and other people's elbows and touch people with her elbows so yeah I didn't know before now can't stop talking about yet. Yeah he's definitely can you talk to us about how old. Your how this program has tried to tackle education first and share one of the things that we noticed as we began working with children. As I mentioned before is that they almost always come and with some sort of deficit can be. In school age child that is related to you know what they're studying in school but. Prior to school. There is so much learning and I know this is then sent Maine times you've prior to it. But between birds and three there is so much development home. C ages so major developmental stages that a child passes through and at those assessments are very specific as sick child said. Do this and this three month period and they don't then there. And seen as being delayed. And so. The focus. After doing an assessment we are able to provide a focus of the staff and as a team work with that child to bill to move them forward to me that mark. And so for a very small child that might mean. You know Larry rollover so we have a seven month called. Currently and that child is unable. At this point to roll over or it's huge he's probably never done tummy time because I'm an unfocused and the parents at the time and so. In working with them. You know it within a week he began to started to turn. And and so being able to me that mark for a child is very important because. They are they all build on the other hand you can't ran into you learn how to watch and so. Building those skills and abilities that the children need. Can then lead to the next 8 PM. So. So as I said earlier in the DLA is they ask you series I don't think they are the tools that we use that we definitely. Our. Changing revising those as a child becomes more comfortable and as we noticed things. Eskew Syria is a very basic Tenet say talks about you know things that the child should be doing at that point. And it's just when there you have seen them doing it when you're not seeing mundane and or whether it is emerging so they're starting to try to get it. And so I am moving as forward. You know as far as fine motor skills gross motor skills. It in very young children. And it's. You know kindergarten readiness skills shapes colors numbers all of those things so as we began to work with them when Anna sat. Especially in the young age children. That they needed. Those preschool skills and so what we've created is at an early laying program. And so after they're older children go to school in the morning from nine to noon we spend time with the younger children the tee a five year olds. In a pre school environments and so. We have Deans of the week we have learning centers we have. Things that I am you know I was very familiar with the coming from really -- head and things that I news that we could. Greatly impact the children. And be able to help move them along so that when they did leave us they were better prepared for kindergarten. We do a more structured environment for them so. You know. Being able to sit for a period of time and receive instruction for three year old son is a learned skill and that's not something that every child is able to do you. Jess off the bat and so you know we start having you know little circle times where we talk about the weather and the days of the week and the minds of the year and things like that. And so those aren't things that are typically occurring in the household hints at pairing is and you know attention that that's not sending an apparent normally does move and says that these children having the opportunity to be involved in a preschool program is very important. Awesome and someone different continue this conversation as we come back from break so. Tune in for more about the family connections tenor with Kelly's wife who our director of youth programs on fostering hope. Who. Welcome back to fostering hope I am your host Nathan Ross here with my co host Jennifer Townsend. You're talking with Kelly so I flew up our programs are. Director of youth programs have fostered dot connect. She's been talking to us today about the family connections center and the work that they're doing especially in the early education for kids. Who were in Iraq reunification on the emergency shelter programs so Kelly. Before break you're getting into their early education and how you're doing some of the task that we take for granted. That you're teaching them teaching kids specifically like sitting down and taking instruction and its argument to other things like that so can you talk a little bit more now. That program. Sure so as I mentioned earlier so it said it said half day preschool program. That a child who was NN quote normal home who would have the opportunity receive and soak. As I was mentioning you know sitting down for three to five year old child. Is not and if that's not something that they neatly do that's a learned skill. And as they grow older their attention span links and the states are some very brief so we might have an F 510 minute circle time to. To be able to talk about you know the days of the week colors shapes things like that. And said that bill is not only on their attentions and link bounce on the social skills and playing dead talk and interact with other children. Very young children do what we call parallel play while they're standing next to each other and the play. But they don't interact so they don't have to get into. You know you be the dad an army the mom and mom and and you know you come home for dinner back and I think they don't participate with each other. And so one of the social skills that we work on with children. Is being able to interact with each other being able to have shared imagination and experiences since ten go into a learning center. And play blocks together more. You know pretend I could dinner together and so. Those are things that that we Lou that are very important skills that sometimes can be missed. If a child hasn't been exposed to other children say they don't have the opportunity to have early talent but education and and attend preschool prior to kindergarten. So those are things that we work on not only that the kindergarten readiness but let us at the social skills and you know those. The things that we work with them on and we called I'd scales and so life skills are things that children quite literally well views for the rest of their life social skills being one of those. You know as adults we take it for granted that we are going dead as speak with other people and that we're going to interact with them. But for some of the children who. You know are not an hour early childhood program that are now and you know school aged they're in elementary middle school high school. You know essential skills are very important being able to interact with people being able to be comfortable in your own skin had been able to talk. Two. To your peers and so those are things that we've known as. That had they had the opportunity to learn those things very young would've changed situation a tree in their life quite honestly they would have. I am you know maybe had. The more of a tendency to be an extracurricular things they could have. You know boot done more in school they can you know held little school offices or or things like that bad. I'm the 'cause maybe they weren't comfortable talking or interacting with their peers that might not be a strength and there's some so. So. As. As I mentioned earlier week. I take children from whatever stage they are when they contest and we made them forward whatever that means for that child we had a situation. With a a girl if you had had several placements. And she was kind of bounce and fortunately from Foster home to Foster home and in different districts so one of the things that we focus on is keeping. Children in their school origins and keeping them where they. Are more comfortable with their friends for those social and interactions because we DC value and that. And said this particular child. Had struggles. As far as homework because. You know like. He said if you have difficulties going at going on home. Homework is not your Ferguson and so she had just a stack of homework that when we partnered with the school district we called her teachers. I'm communicated with them and let them know that she was now with us. And then were able to find out what she was missing. And send a stack of homework and we worked with her and one on one. One of our staff members just had a ticker and her wing and helped her complete all of that homework and get it turned again. So when she came tests she was going to have to repeat her senior year in June and it. Within a thirty day timeframe we were able to get their homework completed get credit for it. And she was able to graduate with her peers and so forth that Childs. You know even though there with us first very short period and 930 days. We can have a huge impact on a town that for focused. And so being able to. Assess summer Leon. And be able to see where that child is and what. They could most benefit from around and then coming up with a plan so that the staff and the sinner can work as a team and really focus in on. How to impact that child is something that we. We you know trying to get done very early on and and to focus together I know that there has been. Big push especially in the last year or so and normalizing. Nineteen experiences for children in Foster care so I think it's really amazing that you. We're able to provide that young lady an opportunity to graduate with her peers and her friends rather than wait having to wait a whole another year. And therefore missing out on an experience I know I hold really. Or to my heart country's fiscal so sure that that's news milestone and a child's life. And you know and you can't go to college without graduating or rude humor and if high school is gonna get experience for you and you feel. You know less than solid about your high school career. You're not gonna pursue. Additional education I guess that's not going to be something that you. The compound and out right mean yeah if I agree if I didn't enjoy high school why go to call them yeah and so yeah vis those things we definitely try to keep normalcy in their life. If they made the football team that's a huge saying I went through practice I tried out and I want to play but that's a cap placed in Foster care. And so we drive those children to those practices this week. Make sure that there are able to participate if there and Bandar and you know after school activities things like that we do though is extra stats because that's what's best for the child. You know and the dedicated effort party you're talking now with the young lady reminds me have a similar story that we had with our community connection t.'s project. I'm so we got a call from. Guardian ad buy them saying that and there is a young man who is preparing to go to college. This month actually do so when she called a few months ago he wanted to go to college starting in August and just need help figure out how to get to warns person and he go to school. So we took the referral down we you've setup a meeting with this kid and then. Al in meeting with him we start asking some of the biggest questions so. Always JCT score. What did you when did you graduate high school when he gonna graduate and we found out that he was he hadn't actually graduated high school yet. And he would take him AZT once as a freshman and scored. Had a very low scores square that was too low for him to go. To college by it because no one has taken a dedicated effort to really auctions through the steps and it actually tastes to go to college he thought. That just turning eighteen and wind to go man that he was going to war Hamburg and summer and so. Is they're discouraged here tell him no that's right now it's an option you have to get if you graduate. So I know this specialists worked with him. Very intensively because she found out that he. Was doing modules to graduate he was kicked out of school for his behaviors and so he was doing modules in this Foster home. Vinnie I moved from Foster home and so the Foster home was. Where he had moved without the school district from where he was taking the modules they wouldn't let him bring a laptop with his. Hence his new Foster home because as a property of the school. And so now he not only did have this home he wasn't going to college now he could even finish his modules because. He wasn't in the right area and so this specialists. Take this boy after she drove from Kim that from our independent office to Harrison though. Past chairs and bill on two separate days picked him out took him to his school 'cause they say that was the only way for him at ten years the modules to the school and sat with him. For eight hours each day and re directed him back. On to his module tasks and so. By doing that those two extremely exhausting days he got he thought he only had two modules that today you found an F five though. Lots and just chaos insists it would all work with the all fighters has modules that he graduated high school. So he now is in a better place to go to college you still have to. Do some of the work needed in order to get his ECT score up but it really does get to that dedicated effort if people had. Been involved has educational life. The entire time he was with toes and end. He would have been in a much better place to go off to school this summer and so he. Without this pro or he wouldn't have even graduated. Because people were tired of him he was you know now be he was disrespectful. Nor want to say it I went to school what I salute you for sixteen hours to do that again you know. So really did change the course of his life just by making. A lot of kids that are misinformed. About how. My daughter and Foster care that are misinformed about. Their resources for college as we get a lot of teenagers who have been told us they say in Foster care. Colleges and automatic thing we had a kid he was so happy to graduate high school and he did an amazing job work himself through it with very little support. Only to discover that. He didn't get to go to the zoo open. Four years for free. Without right now he's way graduated his GPA was slow his stats scores were low he had no extracurricular activities because he had been moved around so much. And it was heart breaking Kia did tell him. And that's not happening right now at least we can work on that happening in the future but it's not a reality and how that happens a lot. Has that has happened to us we have so many ambulance come to us wanting to pursue higher education. But yeah. Honestly they they've been misled their entire educational life and so being passed on they assume that if I show up that's all that's required of me in college is not bad experiences so. We have a lot of kids who get to that point when they're ready to send an application. And they can't they don't have the requirements as he's an extra curriculars the GPA and ACT scores any of those things for them to be productive and college and successfully. Graduating Yasser Italy. Redirect them in Q okay lol. What isn't what we need for community college right community college moved to a four year so things are gonna look a little different it's a pay yourself you could still get there. Injuries just don't look a little bit different and it. He thought absolutely. And so as we wrap up this conversation we'll talk about what supports are still needed to tune in for the finish of this story on fostering hope. The. Welcome back to fostering hope I'm your host Nathan Ross who has my co host Jennifer towns and we've talked with Kelly suite two our director of youth programs that Foster adopt connect. About the human connection senator so Kelly can you talk to us about. What you hope Ted C come out of this educational program you have been kind of what the average person can do to get involved. Sure. You know and having an opportunity to attend a preschool setting is hugely important for children because and you know back. In the olden days when I went to school and you went to candor and learn things now they expect them to come and knowing things and so. Having that preparedness having them walk into a classroom loot more ready to take on additional learning as he's really important and so. Being able to help those children and with the kindergarten readiness skills there that. Colors shapes numbers body parts stamping on one thing that things like you mentioned Israeli air. Are very important. And so. As we work forward. You know we just started this program and tested just in its infancy and so one of the things that we hope to achieve. Is. To be able to track data on children and and there are progress as far as in hearings school and being kindergarten readiness and how Ole. We have made it as marks on the ski threes and the dealing is for there an ugly children. To be able to. You know impact. That the way that child performs and school later on and the this way that people can become involved is just to take interest in a particular child in a volunteer becoming educational advocate. Which Alex the personal connection without the one on one focused. There these children can easily fall through the cracks if no one is focused on and and you know the fact that there. Not doing well in math or if they're not doing well and reading those are things that are gonna impact and the rest of their life and so. Those are you know things that. That it if you would like to. You know take on a child volunteered an organization like ours become. An educational advocate. And or mentored children how tutor them in there. In their lacking. To spend that concerted effort on a particular child and it's so easy to do it takes very little effort. And just your time on the so yeah I know I'm with had a few. Fostered app connect employees have been educational advocates educational surrogate so and that has been deeply impact on the kids that they have served. Additionally you know. Cossack when you court appointed special advocates. They eat. Keep track of several things when they're working one on one with children but one of them is you know education I know that the cost of volunteer. I've worked wind that's been her main. Goal is and keeping track of market as educational. Wellbeing and making sure that they keep moving forward. I'm tutors huge has also been in just briefly mentioned that and recruitment programs has had sun situations where. We are looking productive resources for cameos and the the children feel especially connected to their school of words in their home school and they don't wanna leave no matter what even if that means not having a forever family. It's a we've been able to do targeted recruitment within that child's school district and I'm a doctor resources. So if you're ever thought. How being a Foster parent I'm and feel especially drawn choose to children in your own community. I mean are you should you should look to it become a Foster parent. Share that information with home finding any can take in children from your own neighborhood which I think would be hugely impact on child if is there anyway that someone in the community might be able to help can CC might. Oh absolutely I've I think they educational and the kid they knew both of you were talking about is absolutely important. Even more now you Marcel but equally so with our young adults who have aids on a Foster care. I think sometimes. They get one that's sometimes I know they get discouraged so you've gone through using that it said. You know super easy thing to go off to college and then you get discouraged in the end you have to act going get a job and then you have to take care of your own children and silly. Education and quickly becomes a thing of the past them dream of one day if my life for different I might have been able to you. And so I think there's a real need for people who. As adults as you know 3040 year old went back to school inundated with kids you know I think that there's something to be said for. You know being able to juggle having a family having their career doing their job. And going back to education just showing our young people that's possible. I do you think that we don't we probably don't get enough attention to. How having a loving and stable and caring person in your life propelling you forward educationally impact your life your education it impacts that's real life Kenya very little time with little kids like Kelly was saying all that happened the first three years also everything that happens before graduating high school. Eighteen years is really not all that's been schooled eighteen years is not that long the a hold of that period in your life's and that affects so much of your adult had to come I know that we've had kiddo is an extreme recruitment that. I'm one kid I had been in care for ten years and in. All of that time had never spent more than two weeks in what we would call like a typical school so non an alternative school or non therapeutic school. And yet. When he was placed with a maternal cousin over a year ago. And he was quickly able to treatment within the first month community transfer to a typical school. In their area. And has had any problems and every quarter he has had. Awards upon awards honor roll perfect attendance. That kid had that. Ability -- whole time that attitude that whole time but it took somebody to care if he went to school every day and that encouraged him when things are hard things were hard yeah ear wasn't magic he wasn't placed in everything. Was magically fix it's I he had somebody that encouraged him every day and saw his strength and spoke to restraint so. Case in point would be. You know by yeah I know that math is really hard for you. I'm an against some special attention we're gonna do we need to be due to get don't add up like let's also talk about all the things that you're excelling Nat. You wake up you keep yourself Freddie you go to school every day. That's awesome round you read the book that you were supposed to read for English. And you get a report on it that was awesome let's not just focus on the deficit professionally focused on the all the things you're doing well and has changed I can immensely. And that the I think sometimes with these children on the news is that cheerleader yeah. Made some and Sam behind them tunnel and things are doing riot I think it's very easy CU BM processes and I hate it if you can imagine being anti Yang age group and you don't have the supports that. That a child should enjoy. That every child is entitled to you and so being able to have that cheerleader standing behind them telling them all the thing that means that they're doing great. Build yourself esteem at that puts about deposits into the and little piggy bank and lose a film that seem and so there they don't have. There is that is you know negative impacts. You're eating takes something that happens a little more readily. If you have gained in self esteem near apps and your company and what you're able to do you. Chameleon I agree in being able to invest then in their community. And even doing extracurricular activities gives them something to invest back and so I guess the from the look forward to. I know that. Zack and Suzy who were my mentors me. Helped immensely. And my education my parents very you know very good about making sure that we had this of course necessary. To get educationally on track so I. Don't know that I would have graduated without them honest we Mikey. So thank you so much Kelli for being with us today for sharing about the program and an educational components. I'm. We look forward to seeing all the great conceit you guys do in just being able to see those outcomes. You've been listening to fostering hope proxy by Foster adopt connect. A regional support and advocacy center for abused and neglected children and the families caring for them. To learn how to become a Foster parent or how to help vulnerable children in other ways. Please visit us at Foster adopt dot org or follow Foster adopt connect on FaceBook or Twitter. For more information on any of our other programs you can also find some mind. We will continue our conversations next month on. Racial issues and how that affects the adoptive community in the Foster community so tune in on fostering hope.